The magic spell(ing) to make your baby a genius
In communication individuals bring personal neuronal representations (thoughts and association) and transmit and percieve them through the senses and words. To really communicate with another person is crucial understanding how they use the senses - Touch, Audio and Images - and words - Spelling - (Amirhosseini & Kazemian, 2019; Budiman et al., 2018; Lashkarian & Sayadian, 2015; Petrovici & Stanciu, 2017).
T.ouch A.udio I.mages
Every person has a predominant sensory channel to
elaborate and respond to external stimuli. The most common are
the kinaesthetic, auditory, and visual; while fewer people use the gustatory
and the olfactory (Amirhosseini &
Kazemian, 2019; Lashkarian & Sayadian, 2015; Petrovici & Stanciu, 2017). To recognize the predominant sense, the NPL identified the following characteristics for each main
channel:
Kinaesthetic are people who feel through the Touch. They
- Talk slowly: they have to feel before speaking;
- Feel sensations while they interact: they touch the others, take time to feel, etc.;
- Try to find the most comfortable positions: they stay close to the heating, they choose sofas rather than chairs, etc.;
- Use verbs related to the feel: it was a sharp situation, I feel your pain; it is comfortable (Amirhosseini & Kazemian, 2019).
Auditory are people who feel through the Audio. They
- Talk with different sounds depending on the topic: they change the volume, the tone, the speed, etc;
- Use onomatopoeias or specific sounds to describe: they recall the sounds they heard;
- Make often sounds: finger drumming, whistling, etc.;
- Use verbs related to the hearing: I heard that, it sounds good, it was harmonic;
Visual are
people who feel through Images. They
- Talk quickly: they have lots of images that are faster than words, so they try to tell them quickly;
- Use the hands/their body to describe: they "draw" their thoughts to visualize them;
- Describe with lots of visual details: they notice every colour, spot, change of setting, etc.;
- Use verbs related to the sight: I saw that; have you seen it?; I observed that, etc.
People with the same channel communicate in “the same language” and
understand better each other, while the misalignments obstacle the
communication. Especially visual find diffucult to communicate with kinaesthetic persons and vice versa. When adults have a different channel from children, the communication does not stimulate the children's development, since it does not enter into the narration flow of the child (Budiman et al., 2018;
Lashkarian & Sayadian, 2015; Petrovici & Stanciu, 2017).
Some strategies can help to overcome the sensory misaligment and enter in communication with children. They found into using the same channel of the child. For exaple, if a child is visual, adults should communicate as visuals: talk, move, describe, and use verbs as a visual person would do. In this way children and adults will talk in the same way (Lashkarian &
Sayadian, 2015; Petrovici & Stanciu, 2017).
Not only the way of communicating, but also the way of listening is important. To make a child feel listened adults should:
- For kinaesthetic: stay close to the child and accept the body contact when required;
- For auditory: expose the ear to the mouth of the child to make explicit that you are listening;
- For visual: keep the eye contact and look at what is important for children (Amirhosseini & Kazemian, 2019).
The communication through the right sensory channel is possible also with groups of children with different channels. It is suggested to stimulate every sense: for example while talking with different rythms (auditory) making images with the hands (visual) and using verbs of feelings (kinaesthetic). The use of all the channels is suggested also to train children to use all the senses and not be polarized on only one. This will help them to develop better communicative skills, both talking and listening.
S.pelling
Every person has a different narrative flow, or rather talks about certain topics using certain dialogic repertoires. To empathically communicate with the other, we demonstrated that it consist in mirroring what the other says: talk about the same topic and use the same words and repertoires. There is another step to make the communication even more efficient: create meanings together.
Since the meanings of words are personal, people often talk about different topics even if they use the same words (Turchi, 2009). To avoid this misalignement when talking with children, adults should try to create meanings together with children. They can take a word, ask the children what they mean, add a meaning themselves and then agree on a meaning. This can be useful when introducing new topics, for example in a school.
After ever after...
T.A.S.I. in my region means "shut up", but real communication is totally the opposite. Adults must listen to children to establish a direct relationship with them. So, T.A.S.I. you, adult, because what you do and say is relevant for children: you are their model! But only if you speak their language you will be a super-hero.
La formula magica per rendere il vostro bambino un genio
COMUNICAZIONE "TASI"
Nella comunicazione gli individui portano rappresentazioni neuronali personali (pensieri e associazioni) che trasmettono e percepiscono attraverso i sensi e le parole. Per comunicare veramente con un'altra persona è fondamentale capire come usare i sensi - Tatto, Audio e Immagini - e le parole - Sintassi - (Amirhosseini & Kazemian, 2019; Budiman et al., 2018; Lashkarian & Sayadian, 2015; Petrovici & Stanciu, 2017).
T.occo A.udio I.mages
Ogni persona ha un canale sensoriale predominante per elaborare e rispondere agli stimoli esterni. I più comuni sono il cinestetico, uditivo e visivo; mentre meno persone usano il gustativo e l'olfattivo (Amirhosseini & Kazemian, 2019; Lashkarian & Sayadian, 2015; Petrovici & Stanciu, 2017). Per riconoscere il senso predominante, la PNL ha individuato le seguenti caratteristiche per ogni canale principale:
Cinestetiche sono persone che si percepiscono attraverso il Tatto. Essi
- Parlano lentamente: devono sentire prima di parlare;
- Ricercano le sensazioni mentre interagiscono: toccano gli altri, si prendono del tempo per sentire, ecc;
- Cercano di trovare le posizioni più comode: stanno vicino al riscaldamento, scelgono i divani piuttosto che le sedie, ecc;
- Usano verbi legati alla sensazione: è stata una situazione spinosa, sento il tuo dolore; è confortevole (Amirhosseini & Kazemian, 2019).
Uditive sono le persone che percepiscono attraverso l'Audio. Essi
- Parlano con suoni diversi a seconda dell'argomento: cambiano il volume, il tono, la velocità, ecc;
- Usano onomatopee o suoni specifici per descrivere: richiamano i suoni che hanno sentito;
- Emettono spesso suoni: tambureggiare con le dita, fischiettare, ecc;
- Usano verbi relativi all'udito: Ho sentito che, suona bene, era armonico;
Visive sono persone che percepiscono attraverso le immagini. Essi
- Parlano velocemente: hanno molte immagini veloci in mente che cercano di esprimere tutte insieme;
- Usano le mani/il loro corpo per descrivere: "disegnano" i loro pensieri per visualizzarli;
- Descrivono con molti dettagli visivi: notano ogni colore, macchia, cambiamento di impostazione, ecc;
- Usano verbi relativi alla vista: io l'ho visto; tu l'hai visto?
Alcune strategie possono aiutare a superare il disallineamento sensoriale e a entrare in comunicazione con i bambini. Esse si fondano nell'utilizzare dello stesso canale del bambino. Per esempio, se un bambino è visivo, gli adulti dovrebbero comunicare come i visivi: parlare, muoversi, descrivere e usare i verbi come farebbe una persona visiva, etc.. In questo modo bambini e adulti parleranno allo stesso modo (Lashkarian & Sayadian, 2015; Petrovici & Stanciu, 2017).
Non solo il modo di comunicare, ma anche quello di ascoltare è importante. Per far sì che un bambino si senta ascoltato, gli adulti dovrebbero:
- Per i cinestesici: stare vicino al bambino e accettare il contatto con il corpo quando necessario;
- Per gli uditivi: esporre l'orecchio alla bocca del bambino per rendere esplicito che si sta ascoltando;
- Per i visivi: mantenere il contatto visivo e guardare ciò che è importante per i bambini (Amirhosseini & Kazemian, 2019).
S.intassi
Ogni persona ha un flusso narrativo diverso, o meglio parla di certi argomenti usando certi repertori discorsivi. Per comunicare empaticamente con l'altro, abbiamo dimostrato che consiste nel rispecchiare ciò che l'altro dice: parlare dello stesso argomento e usare le stesse parole e gli stessi repertori. C'è un altro passo per rendere la comunicazione ancora più efficace: creare significati insieme.
Poiché i significati delle parole sono personali, spesso si parla di argomenti diversi anche se si usano le stesse parole (Turchi, 2009). Per evitare questo disallineamento quando si parla con i bambini, gli adulti dovrebbero cercare di creare significati insieme ai bambini. Possono prendere una parola, chiedere ai bambini cosa significano, aggiungere un significato e poi concordare un significato. Questo può essere utile quando si introducono nuovi argomenti, per esempio in una scuola.
E vissero per sempre...
TASI nella mia regione significa "stai zitto", ma la vera comunicazione è totalmente l'opposto. Gli adulti devono ascoltare i bambini per stabilire un rapporto diretto con loro. Quindi, T.A.S.I. tu, adulto, perché quello che fai e dici è importante per i bambini: sei il loro modello! Ma solo se parli la loro lingua sarai un/a supereroe/ina.
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