I've got an A+...GREAT! I've got an F...GREAT!
How do you react when a child gets an A+ at school? And how do you react when the A+ is an F? Since we were children, our parents used to celebrate the 10 and get sad for the 2, but was this mechanism healthy for us? Did it help us to give our best with joy and motivation? I understand if you are confused about the answer now, I couldn’t give an answer to it myself. But then I found some interesting studies about attachment, brain development, and childen’s performances that helped me to clear everything up. Let me share them. Attachment and children’s emotions and performance Parents are the first who influence children self-confidence and initiative. Bowlby explained it in the Theory of Attachment (1969): children need to feel parents’ protection to gradually become more secure and independent in taking initiatives. Parents give protection through two attitudes: responsiveness and positive attitude. Responsiveness means to be sensitive to children’s needs and fulfil them ...